Celebrating Myself

Please have a look at this link.

http://profile.keralamatrimony.com/Malayalam/Muslim-Mapila-groom+E1891641&osa=sphxos

This was the one accidentally sent to me by my well-wisher. To say that I was shocked would be an understatement. I was livid.

And I discussed this with a few friends of mine. One of them sent me around 20 other profiles with similar demands. She was like why are you so angry, this is sooo common.

I mean, look at the audacity of the guy to post this in a public forum and say so blatantly that girl’s father should be alive. They know they can easily get away with this horrendously sick attitude and all the cash packed in suitcase by the father-in-law.

Most girls’-dads take the cheerful view of- What is wrong in helping your son-in-law? At the end of the day it is all for my own daughter.

In all the cases I know (and I know way too many) love/marriage ends with the end of money-flow.

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I am a 26 year old Muslim girl from Kozhikode. Unmarried. So unlike a normal working-in-another-city girl, I don’t look forward to go home these days. Wedding, guys, marriage, proposals and suchlike were occasional topics before. Now these are the only discussions at home. They say they’ve registered me in some matrimonial sites. Trying very hard not to think of me as something put up for sale at the mart, I plugged in my earphones.

I tune out everything around me when asked to look through profiles. I am supposed to comment, pass remarks, choose and like one! And yea, I can only like one. Thank god for small mercies!!

I feel bile rising in my throat. I pretend I gotta pee and rush to bathroom.   

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OTHERS Say this	When I AM Like
MOM: How will you manage when you marry?	I’m your typical absent minded prof
FLATMATE: Your hubby will divorce you.	My room is clean but messy
MOM: What if we don’t find someone open to all your craziness	I love skating
FRIEND: Guys like ‘girls’, you know	Bikes are my passion
FRIEND: Men can be dark or fair, but they always want their girls to be fair. (This is not true. I know many happy fair hubby-dark wife jodi)	I am dark and I don’t have time or interest for facials, sunscreens and sandal powders
You need to break this habit of sitting shut in the room. When you marry…	Privacy and space (no compromise)
FRIEND: Your mommy-in-law’d take you to task.	My chapattis are never round and sometimes burnt at the edges. Hopefully it will get good after more practice.
MOST: You are so arrogant. Its not good for a girl to be so arrogant.	My flaws, my problems, my business
Happy Women’s Day	Bollocks! Its like trying to pacify a dog with a bit of bone after you have devoured a full chicken in front of it. We don’t need your gnawed bones. We know how to take whats ours

No matter how much I convince in what all languages I know, they will never be convinced. It will always be back to square one! ‘Baby, you need to get married’. I don’t know how to convince people that I am happy single and I do not desire a companion, at least not until I see my soul mate. And this is not because I have friends. It is because I love my independence, my choices and most of all myself, with all my flaws.

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